How to Engage a Reluctant Child

We talk a lot about all the benefits of sensory and messy play for children but what happens when our child is very reluctant to even get started? This is something we do come across in our classes and in my experience there are some tried and tested ways to engage a child in play.

My most important piece of advice to never force a child to take part. New experiences can be scary and we need to respect their autonomy and be guided by them. I know if you have spent a long time setting something up or you've paid to attend somewhere it can be frustrating so gently reminding yourself of the end goal, to have a lovely experience with your child, will help.

Join in yourself, demonstrate how much fun it is! Good energy is infectious and takes the pressure off the child and you. It also shows that getting messy is OK, good even! Let yourself enjoy the moment for what it is and don't worry about looking silly or getting covered in paint or gloop, it all washes off.

Remember that everyone is different and it's fine if they don't enjoy one experience, it doesn't mean they won't enjoy something else. I had a little girl in my class who loved getting paint on her hands, playing with cloud dough, water etc but hated the sensation of foam so much she physically gagged. I'm sure we all have some kind of sensory aversion, mine is socks rubbing on carpet! But on the flip side I could sit and play with rice for hours, it's so therapeutic. 

Is your child reluctant to engage? I'd love to hear what works for you.